Making a baby is hard. Why don't people talk about how hard it is to conceive more often? I have one friend who would openly talk about her struggles and her miscarriage. Other than that, a lot of my friend's apparently got pregnant "by accident". I even know some people who got pregnant on their honeymoon. Now that I'm trying to get pregnant, I feel like maybe they were all lying.
I think back to the amount of "pregnancy scares" some people had and I laugh - like, you really thought it was that easy? Maybe for some women, it is. I once knew a woman who got pregnant with her first baby while on the pill, then got pregnant with her second baby while she was on the patch, and then decided to get an IUD since nothing else seemed to work. That's when she got pregnant with her youngest. She loves her kids, of course, but how on earth does that happen to the same person three times?
According to various sources1, you should try for about a year before consulting a fertility doctor. I get that we haven't been trying that long, but I feel like I should have been pregnant at least 2 or 3 months ago. I have an idea when my ovulation dates are but it just doesn't seem to be happening, I'm not sure if I should be worried.
I've been trying to follow the tips to help me get pregnant. Well, I've been eating better. I haven't really been exercising. I like walking, but I feel like it's too cold to go for walks at the moment. I remember once upon a time I used to be a gym junkie for like 6 years, but I stopped going basically because of my current job. The hours I worked and the commute basically killed my whole day. Now with the pandemic, all gyms are closed so I couldn't go even if I wanted to. I don't exercise, but I have been eating better. I've been eating all the
recommended foods, although it also says to cut caffeine and relax which I just can't seem to do. It's recommended that you should get to your ideal weight before getting pregnant. I haven't dropped to my "ideal weight" but I'm not 215 again pounds so I'm really not too focused on that.
My friends keep telling me "it'll happen when it happens". I'm sure it will, but it's not really helpful. A lot of my friends haven't experienced this yet (or never want to), or got pregnant very quickly/by accident. I know they're trying their best to be supportive but it's just frustrating.
I've really just come to hate the questions about when we're planning to have kids. I'm just going to start responding with "actually, I'm trying and it's not working". I mean, it's better than the alternative question which is, why would you even want kids, especially in a time like this. But that sounds like another post for another time.
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